Sunday, January 28, 2018

Relax Relate Release: Learning your triggers can set you free!!



So once again, It's been a minute since I've written, but I thought I had a good excuse...I've been busy dealing with life and juggling a new job and trying my best not to neglect my music.  But then yeseterday it dawned on me...these entries are my story, my life and there just has to be time to share it...so, I usually think long and hard about what to share...on today though..I just don't know where to start, there's just sooooo much....

I'm excited about each new thing happening with my career and as I get closer and closer to accomplishing more goals, It's clear to me now more than ever...EVERYTHING happens for a reason and more times than not, when things do happen they do not end-up how we thought they would...that..my friends is simply because "we" are not in control.  If I didn't learn anything in 2017, I learned how to identify when enough is enough and to understand there are triggers to behaviors that can cause you to question your own abilities, sanity, and emotions when it comes to dealing with feeling out of control. For me those triggers seem to be centered around people who do and say things that seem to question my worth, loyalty, intentions and integrity.  You know that saying "You can't change anyone you can only change how you react to them"...Or something like that...LOL

Well, let me tell you, a whole lot of changes have been made with your girl.  I had to take a couple "Ls" and if that wasn't enough..for some strange reason, I felt as If I needed to blame myself for the things that were happening to me.  Anyway, I share a lot with those that connect with me, but there are some VERY personal matters that I hold inside (we all do) that if I were to say them out loud would make me feel too transparent and all vulnerable and things..While I'm not ready to air-out the specifics of my dirty laundry...I will say that I am no longer holding myself accountable for things I cannot control...

Anyway, My daughter recently came home for a quick visit and somehow we got on the topic of relationships and she was seeking my advice, but as she poured out her heart to me, she was explaining the very same issues I was dealing with that I was too embarrassed to put a voice to.  As she was talking, it took every ounce of strength not to break down right in front of her (but to do that would mean that I hadn't left that mess in 2017)...I have experienced some things, I thought I would never have to go through.....But the last 4 years or so, changed all of that.  Anyway, I realized at that moment...we go through things...but often times the things we experience can help someone else to not have to go down that road (if you will)....So, well I opened uppppp to her that night...I felt like it was important for her to hear that there is life after all of that stuff and her,my own or any one's happiness/self worth DOES NOT live in the hands/actions of others...we each hold that responsibility to discover that wihin ourself...Thus...everything happens for a reason.

The morning following my "purge" if you will, I realized that we must weather the storm to see that rainbow waiting on the other side...once we understand the reason for the storm is to live, learn and lend our life...Yesssss!!!~!

Relax, Relate...and Release!!!



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